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💜 Demisexual and Aceflux? Yep, That’s Me.

So… I’ve been sitting with this for a while, and I think I’ve finally found the words:
I’m demisexual and aceflux — and honestly, it explains so much.

Let’s break it down.
I’m demisexual, which means I don’t experience sexual attraction unless there’s a deep emotional connection. I’m not wired for quick flings or instant “chemistry.” It’s not about looks or vibes — it’s about trust, connection, feeling safe.
Enter: Myron. My very own real-life Superman. The person who makes me feel grounded enough to just be.

But it’s not that simple either — because I’m also aceflux. That means my experience of attraction fluctuates. Sometimes, I feel completely asexual. Other times, I feel something more — but only under very specific conditions. It’s like being on a spectrum within a spectrum.
It can be confusing, even for me. Some days I wonder, “Wait, is this normal?” Other days I just shrug and go, “Yep. That’s how I work.”

And honestly? That’s okay.

I don’t need to fit into a perfect box to be valid.
My identity is layered. Shifting. Slow-burning. And still totally real.

If you relate to that? You’re not alone. It took me years to figure it out. There’s no one “right” way to be ace, or demi, or flux. There’s just your way.

And I’m learning to be proud of mine.

🌈 Want to learn more about aspec identities?
Here are a few starting points I found helpful:

Thanks for reading. 💜 You’re valid, exactly as you are.

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