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  • 6 July 26

    What I’m Focusing on as a Single Person

    A little while ago, I found myself unexpectedly single. For a while, I wondered what came next. Was I supposed to rush into dating? Download every dating app? Worry that I’d somehow “fallen behind” everyone else? The answer, for me at least, has been no. Instead, I’ve realised that being single has given me something…

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  • 25 June 26

    Why I’m Not Built for Summer ☀️🥵

    Every year I tell myself, “Maybe this will be the summer I enjoy.” Every year, I am wrong. Don’t get me wrong—I love blue skies. I love flowers. I love long evenings. What I don’t love is feeling like I’m slowly being roasted alive. Give me:☕ Hot drinks.👕 Sweatshirts and hoodies.🍂 Crisp autumn walks.🎄 Christmas…

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  • 21 June 26

    When Plans Change Overnight

    Today wasn’t a day I expected to write about. Sometimes we build a picture of the future so clearly that it feels almost real. We can see the milestones, the celebrations, the things we’re working towards. We imagine where we’ll be in a year, three years, five years. And then life throws something at us…

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  • 17 April 26

    I Had a Spiral Today… And Then I Didn’t

    I had one of those moments today where everything just felt like too much. Nothing actually happened — which almost made it more confusing. I was just sitting there, and suddenly my brain went into overdrive. Thoughts everywhere, that overwhelming feeling in my chest, like I needed an escape from something I couldn’t even properly…

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    healing, life, love, mental-health
  • 7 April 26

    Auntie Energy: All the Love, None of the Bedtime Battles 💅✨

    I’m childfree by choice — and honestly? I’ve realised something: My niblings (including future ones) are more than enough for me. Because being the auntie is ELITE. I get the cuddles.The chaos.The “look what I made!” moments.The Disney singalongs.The slightly-too-much sugar energy. I get to be the fun, safe, sparkly adult in their world…and then…

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  • 23 March 26

    ✨ Is My Life Allowed to Be This Good? ✨

    I had a thought recently that I didn’t quite know what to do with. Is my life… allowed to be this good? And I know how that sounds.A bit dramatic. A bit over the top. But it came from a very real place. Because lately, things have felt… good.Calm.Steady. And for some reason, that can…

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    blog, life, love, mental-health, writing
  • 7 February 26

    Today Was A Lot.

    Today was one of those days where life just… interrupted itself. I went to hospital for tests, had scans, waited around, worried, overthought, and rode that familiar wave of what if something’s really wrong. The kind of day that leaves your body tired and your brain loud, even when you’re eventually sent home with reassurance.…

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  • 31 January 26

    What a Week.

    Gallstones found. Wedding booked. Same week. Same me. 🤣 One minute I’m being told my body has decided to grow tiny internal rocks like it’s starting a collection. Next minute I’m signing paperwork like yes actually, I would like to marry the love of my life. 💍 If you ever wondered what my life feels…

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  • 30 January 26

    OMG I’M GETTING MARRIED

    I keep typing that sentence and then just… staring at it. Because today we signed the contract.Like, properly signed it. Pens. Paper. Names.The real kind of signed. And now my wedding is confirmed. I thought this moment would feel loud. Screamy. Crying-on-the-floor energy.But instead it feels… calm. Soft. Slightly unreal. Like my brain is still…

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  • 20 January 26

    Maybe 18 Is Still Too Young

    This isn’t a hot take.It’s not a moral panic.It’s just something I’ve been sitting with. We’re told that 18 is the magic number.Adult. Ready. Informed. Capable. But if you ask me — and you are, because you’re reading this —18 is still very young.Especially when it comes to adult content. At 18, most people are…

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