Actually Asten

I know what some people are probably thinking. 2030? Isn’t that… a little far away?

Yeah. It is. And that’s kind of the point.

When Myron and I decided on a date, we didn’t just pluck a random year out of thin air. We thought about where we are now, where we want to be, and what we need to feel fully ready for our wedding day. Emotionally. Physically. Practically. All of it.

We’re building the life first.

There’s a lot happening behind the scenes right now — and one of the biggest factors is my health. I’ve got a major surgery ahead and recovery won’t be instant. Then there’s the move. We’ll be living together properly, in a place that’s ours, not just mine or his. That deserves time, energy, and space to settle in and find our rhythm.

Trying to rush into a wedding while juggling all of that? No thanks. We want to actually enjoy the process — not survive it on fumes.

This day isn’t just a day.

It’s the beginning of forever. I’m not doing this for a party or a Pinterest board. I’m doing this because I’ve found the person I want beside me through every messy, beautiful, boring, exciting, chaotic chapter of life.

We’ve already been through a lot — including a breakup, a reconnection, and years of growing up and finding our way back to each other. Waiting a few more years to get married doesn’t scare me. What scares me is not doing it our way.

People have opinions.

They always do. “Why wait so long?” “You never know what might happen by then.” “I’d just want to get on with it.” Cool. But this isn’t about anyone else’s timeline. It’s about ours. And we’re not interested in doing it for the sake of doing it — or just to please someone else’s idea of ‘soon enough.’

I want to feel fully present.

Not recovering. Not mid-move. Not in survival mode. I want to walk down that aisle feeling strong, calm, and completely ready to commit to the love of my life — not half-distracted by pain or logistics.

Besides… it’s not like we’re “on hold.” We’re living. We’re loving. We’re making memories already. The wedding will just be a beautiful continuation of what we’re already building.

So yeah… 2030.

It gives us time to grow, heal, save, plan, and enjoy every step. And when that day finally comes? It’s going to mean everything.

We’re not waiting because we’re unsure. We’re waiting because we’re all in.

– Asten 💍