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“You Need a Licence for a Dog, But Not a Child?”
A reflective rant about how backwards the world is. 17 August 2025 It hit me the other day how backwards the world is. If you want to get married, you have to fill out paperwork, prove your identity, and jump through legal hoops. If you want to adopt an animal, you’ll probably have a home…
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Sweatshirt Season is My Super Bowl
by Asten Clarke(feat. chaos from Daisy Carter) There’s something magical about this time of year. The air gets crisper, the PSLs return to Starbucks, and I start preparing for my annual transformation into a walking Disney store. That’s right — it’s nearly sweatshirt season. Some people count down to Christmas. I count down to the…
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When a Special Interest Fades… and It Scares You
This feels weird to say, but I don’t think I want to see Basil Brush this year. Even typing that feels wrong. Like I’m betraying someone—or maybe betraying a version of myself. For as long as I can remember, Basil has been my thing. My comfort. My joy. My weird little niche in the world…
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💬 He’s a Nerd… But He’s My Nerd
A Love Story in Doritos, Superheroes & SarcasmBy Asten Clarke Let’s get one thing straight:I didn’t grow up dreaming of some tall, dark, mysterious bad boy. No. I wanted the one who’d share snacks with me. Quote movies at me. Laugh at the same dumb jokes for the 300th time. The one who gets what…
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Almost 33, No Kids — and Totally at Peace
I’m nearly 33. I’m engaged. I’m building a life I love. And I’m childfree by choice. Not “we’ll see” childfree. Not “maybe one day” childfree. Just… childfree. And while I’m at peace with it, the world around me often isn’t. What People Still Say: I’ve heard it all. And sometimes, when the questions come from…
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Things I Know About Love (That I Didn’t at 18)
When I was 18, I thought love was dramatic. Kisses in the rain, intense arguments that ended with someone running through an airport — like the rom-coms told me. I thought love had to be constant butterflies. That it should be all-consuming. That if it didn’t hurt a little, it wasn’t real. But now, 15…
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✨ Dreams, Goals, and the Life I’m Building
Sometimes I get so caught up in day-to-day stuff — the spirals, the nostalgia dives, the Daisy chaos — that I forget to step back and ask myself what I actually want. Not what people expect from me, or what I “should” be doing at a certain age. Just… what I want. So here it…
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✨ Letting Go: A Letter to My Past Self
Content note: This post discusses sexual trauma, shame, and healing. Please read with care. Sometimes, healing looks like writing the words you were too afraid to say for years. This letter is a moment of release — from pain I didn’t ask for, from shame I never deserved, and from a version of myself I’ve…
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✨ When It Feels Right – A Reflection on Timing and Love
I used to wonder if there was a “right” age to get married. Was I meant to tick it off by 25? Was there a deadline I’d missed? Should I have followed the timelines everyone else seemed to be on — the school, job, marriage, kids script? But life isn’t a checklist. It’s messy, chaotic,…
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✍️ Why I Still Write
I don’t write for bestseller lists.I don’t write to chase trends, algorithms, or royalties that barely cover a coffee. I write because there are stories in me that need to come out.Because sometimes my head is too loud until I let my characters speak.Because Amber, Jonas, and Daisy feel more real to me than most…
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