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Parasocial Love: Practising for the Real Thing
We’ve all had them — those little crushes on people (or characters!) who didn’t actually know we existed. From TV presenters to cartoon characters, boyband posters to puppets (yes, even Basil Brush counts), parasocial love has been part of growing up for so many of us. At the time, it can feel intense. You doodle…
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The Activities That Shaped My Teens
When I think back to my teenage years, it’s not just school and homework I remember. It’s the places where I found belonging, laughter, and friends who understood me. For me, that was through the activities I did with other disabled teens. These spaces weren’t just about filling time — they were about connection. They…
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Almost 33, No Kids — and Totally at Peace
I’m nearly 33. I’m engaged. I’m building a life I love. And I’m childfree by choice. Not “we’ll see” childfree. Not “maybe one day” childfree. Just… childfree. And while I’m at peace with it, the world around me often isn’t. What People Still Say: I’ve heard it all. And sometimes, when the questions come from…
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Things I Know About Love (That I Didn’t at 18)
When I was 18, I thought love was dramatic. Kisses in the rain, intense arguments that ended with someone running through an airport — like the rom-coms told me. I thought love had to be constant butterflies. That it should be all-consuming. That if it didn’t hurt a little, it wasn’t real. But now, 15…
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Why We’re Waiting Until 2030 – And Why It’s Perfect for Us
I know what some people are probably thinking. 2030? Isn’t that… a little far away? Yeah. It is. And that’s kind of the point. When Myron and I decided on a date, we didn’t just pluck a random year out of thin air. We thought about where we are now, where we want to be,…
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The Next Five Years: Big Changes, Bigger Dreams
If you told teenage me that by 2029 I’d be married, living with the love of my life, and finally having the surgery I’ve waited years for, she probably would’ve laughed and then gone back to fangirling over JLS and obsessively tweaking her Bebo profile. But here I am — thirty-something, engaged to my very…
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💞 What It’s Like Being the Most Important Person in Someone’s Life
There’s a moment — and it’s usually quiet, unexpected, and completely overwhelming — when it hits you: I’m someone’s person. Not just liked. Not just tolerated. Not just “oh yeah, she’s sweet.” But loved. Prioritised. Chosen. That someone, for me, is Myron. I still don’t quite know what I did to deserve that kind of…
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✨ Why I Wish Amber & Jonas Was My First Work (No Offence, Rainbow Balloons) ✨
Some people say “you never forget your first.” In writing? I kinda wish I could… but I can’t, because mine was called Rainbow Balloons. 🎈 Yep. That was the name of my first ever story. And listen — I love her, I do. She was colourful, dramatic, full of feelings and Very Big Themes. But…
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✨ Juggling Myron, Meetings & Meltdowns: My Life as a Neurospicy Creative Human ✨
Let’s be real — being autistic and juggling anything is already a full-time job. But here I am, trying to balance three major things: Some days I’m thriving. Other days I’m crying over reheated pasta while Daisy screams in my head. That’s just the vibe. 💕 The Relationship Bit Myron is the calm to my…
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🎧 My Ultimate Stimmy Bops 🎧
A personal playlist powered by dopamine and happy flappy vibes Some people have playlists for working out. Some have playlists for breakups. Me? I have stimmy bops — songs that make my brain fizz in the best way possible. The ones I can’t listen to just once. The ones that make me move without even…
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